I remember when this term first showed up...and it was cracking me up because it was this new way of describing men. Before then, our favorite way was to accuse them of being "non-committal" which is hilarious because it's been revealed in multiple ways that its actually WOMEN who tend to be non-committal, NOT MEN. "Emotionally unavailable" became a popular way of describing a man that we were rejecting.
Read MoreDeepest bow to wise-woman Christiane Pelmas for the gorgeousness and potency of her words....and to Sydney Culver for sharing both Christiane's words - and her own, deepening their truth with her own moonlit feminine remembrance.
"If you have ever had the great fortune to spend time around stallions, you might know why I would use this analogy. Contrary to most current belief (which is fearful of stallion energy and cages and isolates it as wild, dangerous, unpredictable, antisocial energy), stallions are the most necessarily and willingly social individuals in the herd. They thrive on social interaction, free of constraint and fear.
Read MoreThis is the name of the piece that wants to be -- and will be -- written and shared. But not until next week.
We are leaving shortly for the journey from Los Angeles to Big Sur where I will spend the next several days frolicking naked in the ancient soul forest and soaking all night long in the healing waters of the hot tubs cantilevered into the majestic cliffs over-looking the Pacifica Ocean. Soaking in those waters under a shooting star-spattered velvet night sky is (one of) my most exquisite pleasures and ravishings on Earth. Oh, and there is not a blessed peep of cell reception at magical Esalen...so all the Messenger / comment things will have to respectfully dangle in the "unresponded to" winds until I return.
Read MoreYesterday, I came across a post here in the FB wilds that made my heart skip a beat.
The subject of this particular thread was masculine ineptitude. Some dude somewhere said the unconscious thing. Some man somewhere was semi-invasive, judgmental + old school in his outreach.
Read MoreA little fairy tale (from many moons ago) about letting
the new Love rule upon Earth
( 4-minute read)
It is our very first date, but I already know we have a love story for the ages. I peek down from the bedroom window, and watch him as he literally bounds up the front steps. Seconds later, the doorbell. Last swipe of lipgloss; my hands are trembling.
I open the door and invite him in. We sit on the deck, drinking sparkling cucumber mocktails in the waning summertime light.
Read More"POWER"
c. 1300, "ability; ability to act or do; strength, vigor, might," especially in battle.
"POTENT"
c. 1500, from potis “able, powerful, lord, master”.
Read MoreA little bit ago, I read these words on the FB wall of a woman I hold in great regard:
"MOST MEN HAVE NEVER TRULY LOVED A WOMAN, LET ALONE WOMANHOOD."
Here is my response:
AND.....many, *many* men love women and womyn and the wild storm that is the Feminine beautifully and deeply and radically.
I understand that I am in the minority of the Feminine tempest right now as I dare to speak these words -- but it deeply concerns me that we are *creating* a narrative around "most men" that fuels both beliefs and diminished collective expectations around the masculine that fully *appear* to be "what is so". Sadly, I only need to point to the slop bucket of tragic evidence-of-harm-done-by-white-men that is spewing its vile truth on the daily.
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